Give your heartstrings a tug…

‘Cause all of me
Loves all of you
Love your curves and all your edges
All your perfect imperfections
Give your all to me
I’ll give my all to you
You’re my end and my beginning
Even when I lose I’m winning
‘Cause I give you all, all of me
And you give me all, all of you

I rarely bring this kind of topic up because I don’t consider myself knowledgeable enough to share any kind of insight when it comes to love. What is love? What is to be in love? What is it to be loved in return? What is true love?

They’re all kinds of love, but at the core of every relationship, every action, every interaction, everything… there is love.

Love is what makes the world go round. I don’t care how corny I sound, I know this to be the ABSOLUTE TRUTH.

And when you love… when you let yourself love to the fullest extent, when you allow yourself to receive love… you radiate, you vibrate, you come alive.

I don’t think there’s anything more beautiful than to love someone wholeheartedly for the sole purpose of just loving them.

How many of you can think of someone you love unconditionally?

You know they’re flawed, you know all their quirks and shortcomings, you’ve been around for all their mistakes and yet you’re still there. You accept them for who they are because you know their heart… you know their soul.

When two people come together… transmitting the same frequency, vibrating the same energy… sharing one mind, one body and one soul. I think a communion like that is incomparable.

How do you achieve that?

In my own experience, I’ve learned that we only have a shot if we fulfill the following requirements:

  • Don’t let the past get in the way of your present.
  • Keep your Ego at bay.
  • Give yourself permission to act a fool.
  • Be vulnerable. So vulnerable it hurts.
  • Don’t question it. Don’t second guess yourself.
  • Don’t let other people’s opinions get in the way of your true feelings.
  • Find that “magical middle ground” where all the compromises happen.
  • Say “I’m Sorry” when you know you have to.
  • Say “I Love You” even if you don’t have to.
  • Listen to your inner voice, and don’t cramp her in. You want to share her/him.

With the right person, these things come easy. With the “right but not right now” person, communication is key. Either way, there is a love out there. A love so fierce it will bend time and space. If you’ve got it, you know that each day is a new day you have to wake up and start all over again. If you don’t got it, it’s coming. It always does. Here’s to love!


My mentor, Pain.

We are human.

This means that we are fragile. We are susceptible to pain. We hurt, we bleed, we break. Sometimes we have the scars to prove it, sometimes the wounds are invisible.

I will repeat this: We are human.

This means that we are imperfect at times. We make mistakes, we act out, we give in, we give up, we hurt, we kill, we destroy.

We are human.

This means that for every tear we’ve caused, we’re capable of getting a smile. Whatever we destroy, we’re able to build it back. We can give back, we can create life, we can start over…

So what is it? Why do we have to suffer? Is it because of our faults? How many of you believe that suffering is a punishment?

To my astonishment, I am here to share something with you I have learned not too long ago. You ready?

Pain is your teacher.

That’s right. You’re not trippin. You heard me right.

Pain is a mentor, a guide, an eye-opener, a perspective, a life changer.

To suffer is to live. It’s a part of life. Name me one person you know that has never felt pain… I’ll give you some time, in the meanwhile I’ll be watching an episode of Modern Family…

…Still nothing?

That’s because they don’t exist!

It’s like the “normal” person I’ve been talking about. I’m still waiting on someone to bring me back one of these.

So, recently, in the midst of experiencing some truly tragic events, I found myself at a devastating low.

There I was, unraveling in the hurt, the pain, the agony, the regret, the guilt, the fear, the gut wrenching feeling of having lost something that meant the world to me.

48 hours later, you know what I realized?

It was just not meant to be.

There are no mistakes. If you feel like you’ve outgrown someone, it’s for a reason!

We don’t need to hold on to something just because it’s what we know.

Anyway, I’m deviating. Back on topic, Pain.

I’d like to share some wisdom I’ve acquired from watching an Anime series called Naruto (we can make fun of me for that later)

Naruto Shippuuden Quotes10

You remember the infamous quote:

“Everyone wants happiness,
No one wants pain,
But you can’t have a rainbow,
Without a little rain”

So if you would please indulge me, I’d like to do a litter experiment with you, awesome reader =]

1. I want you to think about one of your happiest moments. The first one that comes to mind! Don’t over think it.
2. What is it? Ok, don’t tell me…
3. I want you to remember everything about it. I want you to visualize it, feel it, smell it, breathe it. Say it out loud.
4. How does it make you feel?
5. Did you smile? Did you heart swell up with joy? Did you exhale a tremendous sigh?

My memory: I closed my eyes and remembered the time I was on a plane. It was a trip I was taking to an unknown city. I was letting go of the world I knew in pursuit of my dreams. I finally made it. I was finally doing it. It was a proud, exciting and perfectly joyous occasion for me 30,000 feet above sea level.

Now… let’s do the same thing with a negative memory.

My memory: I remember when my grandmother died. I was 10. I remembered not being able to assimilate it for days. I was convinced she was still there, alive somehow, because I could feel her with me. And it hurt me more than anything that no one else could see her.

So… what was the experience like for you?

Now… this might sound crazy…
But just bear with me here.

Try and imagine a world where the negative memory never happened. Where you were never hurt. Ever! Nothing bad has ever happened to you. You have no idea what that is…
Now think back on your happy memory. Does it still feel the same to you?

In my case, it really doesn’t. Because the joy I felt came from achieving something. It came from my struggle to get to that place. It was so hard for me. I had many battles to fight to get there. I had proved many people wrong to be sitting there. Against all odds, I made it. That is why it was such a special moment for me. If I didn’t have to deal with any of that, I would’ve probably taken it for granted. Wow. Come to think of it, I’d probably be a bratty adult too and this blog wouldn’t exist 🙂

I have a confession to make: I can say without a doubt that I am the person I am today thanks to all the “stuff” that I’ve been through. My experiences made me. Every wound, every mistake, every regret, every tear, every sweat, every doubt, every breakdown… has brought me closer to myself.

It is that pain, that hardship, those times we fall right down to our knees, those scars and cuts and bruises that make us. They break us down, yes but they also help build us up.


Do not let the fear of pain conquer your desire for life, for adventure, for spontaneity, for love. In fact, let it guide you.

When confronted with an abyss, just leap forward. Just jump. You’ll have plenty of time to think about it during the fall. Just kidding 🙂
There are no mistakes in life. Just experiences.

“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern.

Beautiful people do not just happen.”
– Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

So go forth you beautiful human being and just be! You honestly never know how amazing something could turn out to be. So just leap!

PS: The song doesn’t have much to do with my post, I was just listening to it while writing. It’s one of my fav tracks. Sia has an amazing voice. You can check out more of her stuff here.

Dance for a Cause!

In the largest lip-dub of Africa, 500 women dance to ‘Price Tag’ by Jessie J ft. B.o.B.
Every single one of these strong and resourceful women has started a business of her own. Their dream is to show you and Jessie J how this has impacted their lives!

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Directed by: Ivan Mikulic
Camera: Berta Banacloche
Choreography: Mexim Janzen

The small business loans you can provide online allow women in Uganda to work for a better future and escape the poverty trap of generations!

The POWER of Words!

To be honest, when I first saw this video I thought “how sad”. How sad it was that a blind man’s message had to be “marketed correctly”, that it had to evoke a sentiment in a person, that we needed to feel “connected” to him somehow, that it had to be creative for charity to happen. Otherwise, he was just another blind man begging on the street. It took me back to another classic example. “If you want to succeed in the business world, you have to dress the part.” I hated when people would tell me that. I hated it because at the time I felt that they were right. It was something I was taught. If you want to succeed under society’s standards, then yes, you have to play the part. You have to put on the nice suit, drive the nice car, have the nice house even if only for appearances in the beginning. But thanks to something called modernization, that idea is now bullshit.

Mark Zuckerberg probably created Facebook in his boxers and he runs his company wearing jeans. We focus more on the content of things, but it doesn’t mean that image is any bit less.

But what I didn’t realize at the time is that these are two separate topics. Appearances is one thing and how we speak, the words we choose to share is another. I never realized it because as long as I can remember I have always spoken with caution. I have chosen my words skillfully. I have always been aware of the power of words. I learned from a young age that I could make someone laugh or cry depending on what I said and I would always choose my words consciously. Except when I got upset of course, or when I was hurt. Sadness and anger have a huge alteration on how you communicate. (I’m working on that). So, since saying the right words was second nature to me I didn’t fully understand that for others this could be difficult.

Not too long ago I met someone that has a true gift for saying the wrong things at the wrong time without fail. Each time she made a comment I would cringe because it was just… either wrong, out of place, inappropriate or mean. However, it was never her intention. This girl has a beautiful heart. She is made up entirely of flaws, stitched together with good intentions. When I spoke to her, she had no idea that her words were out of place. With a little focus and some self-realization she’s managed not only to change how she talks to others, but she’s also made a positive impact on them!

So that was my personal experience with words. To change our words, first we have to change our message, our thoughts.

We are what our thoughts have made us; so take care about what you think. Words are secondary. Thoughts live; they travel far.
Swami Vivekananda

My invitation to you is this:

Let us all be kind with our words.

Let us all speak peace into existence.

Let us all spread joy through our mouths and let only love leave our tongue. 

Thoughtless words cut like a sword.

But the tongue of wise people brings healing.

Proverbs 12:18-20

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What does sacrifice mean to you?

When you are with me, I’m free
I’m careless, I believe
Above all the others we’ll fly
This brings tears to my eyes
My sacrifice

I have a question I’d like to ask you: What does sacrifice mean to you? And how does it make you feel?

When was the last time you’ve sacrificed something for someone?

I watched an interesting movie the other day, it was called Beautiful Creatures. I really liked it because I felt that it was full of little life lessons and practical quotes. Here’s an excerpt of the script dealing with this topic:

“I don’t want to preach today, instead I just wanna talk to you, about a word we don’t hear much anymore. Sacrifice. It’s not what I would call a modern word. People hear the word sacrifice, and they become afraid that something will be taken away from them or that they will have to give up something they couldn’t live without. Sacrifice, to them, means loss in a world telling us we could have it all. But I believe true sacrifice is a victory. That’s because it requires free will to give up something for someone you love, or something or someone you love more than yourself. I won’t lie to you. It’s a gamble. Sacrifice wont take away pain and loss, but it wins the battle against bitterness, the bitterness that dims the light on all of the true value in our lives” – Reverend Stephens

I felt this speech was so poignant. To me, the word sacrifice in itself evokes a sense of loss, of rendition, of compromise, of letting go, of not getting what you want, of heartache and pain.

But the real question is: Is it worth it?

Why do we sacrifice? We’re always surrendering for something or someone else. It could be our God, our father, our brother, our lover, our friend, our neighbor. To make them happy, to prove our love, to calm an argument.

Unfortunately, the person that you’re willing to resign something for, the sad truth is that if they’re not “on the same boat as you”. If you feel like you’re giving more than you’re getting, you’re going to end up regretting the compromises you’ve been making.

We live in a world where sacrifices are routine and compromises are necessary.

The idea is not to let go of sacrifice, but to value it.

Make sure you feel in your heart that it’s worth it. Know why you’re doing it, and hold that reason up high. It’s the only way to let go of resentment and achieve true virtue.

Don’t Worry! Be Happy!

“Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace and gratitude.”

– Denis Waitley

I fell in love with this quote. It resonated so much with my own views about happiness. A lot of people tend to think of happiness as something to aspire to, something to achieve, something you reach for, something you get.

What if I told you that happiness has been residing within you all along?

The same way that you have the ability to create your life, you have the power to make yourself happy right now! No excuses. It doesn’t matter… It doesn’t matter what you’re missing, what you’re lacking, if you just got fired, if you just got dumped… It makes no difference because you my friend, oh you beautiful thing, you are perfect and whole just the way you are. And guess what? You are Loved!

Wake up to your potential & make a conscious decision today to attract happiness into your life.

In order to achieve this we need to let go. Here are 15 things you need to give up to be happy.

If all else fails, sing along 🙂