Come On…

You’ve got the words to change a nation
but you’re biting your tongue,
You’ve spent a life time stuck in silence
afraid you’ll say something wrong,
If no one ever hears it how we gonna learn your song.
So come on, come on…

To be honest, I’m tired… I’m tired of the silence. Each one of us is unique. We have a voice, a story, a message that whether we want to admit it or not, it wants to be heard. Your story, believe it or not, is worth more than gold. Your story could save a life. Put yourself out there, give of yourself to this world. If there’s someone you love… tell them! If there’s something you want… ask for it! Whatever it is, speak it out loud. Silence is a darkness that festers inside you. The more you wait to find the courage, the more you’ll never have it… 

Today I ran into a very important person from my past whom I still love very much. Has anyone you know ever pretended like they didn’t know you? Well that’s what happened. That’s what she did. She passed by me as if I didn’t exist, as if I was invisible… and it hurt. Because I let it hurt. Because the last time we saw each other it wasn’t on good terms and because I wasn’t expecting to see her again for a long time and I had made peace with that. Because they were so many words left unsaid… I wanted to open my mouth and say something but I thought better of it, because it felt like it was the “right thing to do” at the time. How many of you have felt the same?

I’m tired of the silence.

We’re all wonderful, wonderful people
So when did we all get so fearful?
Now we’re finally finding our voices
So take a chance, come help me sing this…

Gratitude

All that I am,

All that I see,

All that I’ve been,

And all that I’ll ever be.

It’s a blessing,

It’s so amazing,

And I’m grateful for it all!

The infamous Nimo Patel does it again, this time accompanied by Daniel Nahmod they brought together dozens of people from around the world to create this beautiful, heart-opening melody. Inspired by the 21-Day Gratitude Challenge, the song is a celebration of our spirit and all that is a blessing in life. For the 21 Days, over 11,000 participants from 118 countries learned that “gratefulness” is a habit cultivated consciously and a muscle built over time. As a famous Roman, Cicero, once said, “Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all others.” This soul-stirring music video, created within a week by a team of volunteers, shines the light on all the small things that make up the beautiful fabric of our lives.

Its that time of the year when we take a moment to reflect and to appreciate all the wonderful things life has to offer us (and, of course, to indulge in all kinds of wonderful goodness too!)

So as we celebrate Thanksgiving, I just wanted to let you know that I am grateful for the gift of you in my life. Yes, that’s right, I’m talking to YOU, the beautiful soul that has found me in this corner of the cyber Universe and who has connected with a word that I’ve fluttered on this page. Thank You for your eternal kindness and kindredness ❤

What are you grateful for?

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Video

Existential Bummer

This video will possibly inspire you, make you tear up, and convince you to go out and start living life to the fullest — all in three minutes.

For the last few months, filmmaker Jason Silva has been impressing us with his philosophical YouTube series, “Shots of Awe.” This installment, called “Existential Bummer,” is no exception.

In it, Silva asks: How should we react to the fact that everything we love will eventually come to an end?

Watch his response above.

I love everything about this video, from the angles of the camera to the Freud & Rilke reference to the use of the word entropy.

“There’s a sadness to the ecstasy”

 

It’s so painfully and yet beautifully true. We cherish the special moments because we know that they’re ephemeral. Nothing lasts forever, well besides our souls. Everything is impermanent. There is no yesterday or tomorrow, all we have really and truly IS THIS MOMENT! 

 

This moment is our present, past & future. So yes, we can make a moment last forever, we can not let go, we can make it count. Live your life as if you are experiencing a succession of moments rather than counting down the hours or the moments.

Each day we are born anew, Buddha said. What you do with your life RIGHT NOW is all that matters. If you don’t do anything, that’s ok. Start over tomorrow. Try again. Each day we are born anew… take that to heart. Each day you wake up with a clean slate. What happened yesterday no longer matters, what’s going to happen tomorrow holds no bearing on you. You are in the present moment and making the most of it!

carpe diem

Unconditionally…

Oh no, did I get too close?
Oh, did I almost see
What’s really on the inside?
All your insecurities
All the dirty laundry
Never made me blink one time

Unconditional, unconditionally
I will love you unconditionally
There is no fear now
Let go and just be free
I will love you unconditionally

 

This AWESOME song by Katy Perry takes a deep look into what it means to really and truly love someone without conditions.

How many of us can say we have a true love, a pure love, an unconditional love? Do you have someone in your life that you love like this?

It could be your mother, your daughter, your spouse, your best friend, your neighbor…yourself.

Can you say that you love this person with no expectations, without prejudice?

Unconditional means “without conditions”. The general example used to describe the word is: Unconditional Surrender.

I found this odd. It seems that we tend to associate the ‘unconditional’ with pain and suffering. During War Times, an opponent would use unconditional surrender as a way to put psychological pressure on a weaker adversary.

So what is unconditional love all about… and does it even exist?

Modern day society has a different outlook on love than our ancestors. Love these days is a choice and romantic love, in most cases, is seen as a hindrance. To love, by expression, is to create a set of conditions in which to love.

We choose our life partners based on convenience. If we have the same political views, want to settle down in the same neighborhood, want the same amount of kids, agree to let each other pursue our careers, etc.

So, with that in mind, does unconditional love have a space to grow and blossom? I find a lot of modern day relationships to be a kind of contractual agreement between two parties. It’s all about comfort and convenience. Is that really love?

Putting relationships aside, let’s think about unconditional love on a greater scale. What if you could apply unconditional love to every aspect in your life?

To your job, to your boss, to the traffic on your way to work, to the waitress having a bad day and taking it out on you, to the homeless man on the corner asking for a dollar, to your children, to yourself…

Do you see the difference?

It all boils down to the same thing over and over again.

Fear.

We are afraid to be exposed. To be seen. For everything we are as well as everything we’re not. We are scared. We are so scared and it’s killing us my friend…

I’d like you to do an exercise with me. We cannot project unconditional love until we have found that same love in ourselves. How many of you can say you love yourselves unconditionally?

Well… let’s get there. I have 3 steps that helped me and maybe they could help you too:

  1. Look at yourself in the mirror and say your affirmations out loud. Whatever your truth is, say it out loud to yourself. Internalize it, own up to it.
  2. Forgive yourself. Stop criticizing yourself. Stop scrutinizing your mistakes. It doesn’t matter what you’ve done or haven’t done in the past. Each day we are born anew.
  3. Give more love. The more you give of yourself, the more you will get back. It’s just the Law of the Universe.

And lastly…

Stare your fear in the face and walk right past it…

“Do one thing every day that scares you.”
― Eleanor Roosevelt

 

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Let Love In!

As long as you’re alive, eventually you will get hurt by someone. I used to think that wasn’t true. That eventually you could find someone that would NEVER hurt you. Now I know that i’ts not even about that. It’s not about finding the perfect person, it’s not even about being the perfect person. It’s about accepting everything that happens to you and being the person that stands up. Life is not about falling down, it’s about getting back up. What really makes us who we are is not the person that broke our heart, but the person we became after our heart was broken. Every second, we are given a choice. How you react to something makes all the difference in the world. You could choose to shut the world out, be angry, resent ever letting your guard down, make a vow to never trust another human being again… but who is that really hurting? No one but you.

As much as it hurts, as uncomfortable as it sounds… To love. To truly live and love… you have to give of yourself. You have to expose yourself, all the pieces of you.

In the end, all of this… our entire existence and this world of ours is pure energy. If you close yourself up, you’re balling your energy source up and creating an invisible barrier to all the forces outside you… No love going out and no love coming in.

You are a beautiful soul, an amazing human being. What you’re going through is temporary. It’s a stage, a phase. There is something wonderful waiting for you just around the corner and it’s going to show up when you least expect it (like it always does) and when it does, what are you going to do?

Are you going to hear the knock and open the door… or let it pass you by and tell yourself you’ll get it next time?

There is no sense in waiting. Your life is right now and as I’ve always said…Love is what it’s all about. If you are blocking any kind of love from coming through your door, you might want to make an exception today. You never know how it could turn out.

“Where there is love there is life!” -Mahatma Gandhi

The Art of Being Alone…

This charming video pays tribute to the happy wholesomeness of being alone. Tanya Davis recites her poem about the ways of solitude, gently cataloging all the places where ‘aloneness’ can bring freedom and healing. Whether at a lunch counter, park bench, mountain trail, or on the edge of a dance floor – all you have to do is love yourself enough, to love being alone.

Lonely is a freedom that breathes easy and weightless and lonely is healing if you make it.

I couldn’t have said it any better. I used to have a friend who confessed to me that she “hated being alone”. She couldn’t stand it. Since she was 14, she had been dating someone and it’s what she knew. When she broke up with her first boyfriend at 18, in less than a week she’d gotten another one. This succession continues until today. Her last breakup was four months ago and this time she was heartbroken. It took her longer to get back on her feet, to fill that empty space in her life. She found herself confronted with… herself. And she didn’t like what she saw. That’s when her whole world changed. She told me “If I don’t like my own company, If I’m afraid of my own thoughts, If I don’t enjoy being with myself how is anyone else going to do it?” That’s when she made a promise to herself.

“I want to fall in love with me so I can enjoy being with just me, I want to do things just for me. I want to be happy without relying on anybody.”

She quit her job, got a new career, a new car, new clothes and a brand new attitude to go with it. If you see this girl now you’d never think that she once hated being alone.

Being alone is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself. It opens up a portal to self-discovery. To awareness about yourself, who you are and your relationship to everything around you. It is inevitable to stumble upon your greatness, your depth, your beauty, your light. Don’t choose to be alone but if you find yourself in that situation, don’t see it as an inconvenience or a tragedy. Look at it as an opportunity to start dating and falling in love with yourself!

To read the entire poem you can visit this site.

To read my former post The Loudness In Silence, click here.

And remember, Loneliness and Solitude are very different things.

Connect by Disconnecting…

Does this video look familiar to you? Do you see this in your social circles? at Work? School? Home? Do you see the closest people you know following this pattern? Friends? Family? Boyfriend/Girlfriend?

How does it make you feel. What about you? Are you part of it yourself?

The funny thing is: If everybody is ‘plugged in’, there’s no one to notice the problem. 

I have a blackberry. For as long as I can remember, I’ve had one (since they came out). Last year, when I was living abroad, my blackberry broke. And so I did the most sensible thing – I bought the cheapest phone I could find. And just like that, I broke free of a circle I didn’t know I was in. I was missing BBM and Whatsapp group messages, I wouldn’t get Facebook notifications or emails on my phone and guess what? I didn’t need it. I was fine. I was more than fine. I wasn’t just surviving, I was living. I was living in the present moment. something we forget to do. Yes, this is a fast pace world we live in. Yes the internet is a driving force in today’s society and economy but ask yourself this… Are you spending more time than you should on your phone/laptop/tablet? Could you possibly manage to do a few things without it?

LET GO!

Here’s what I do: I spend 60 minutes a day completely disconnected from everything. My phone and my computer (that’s all the technology I use) and I make an effort to be fully engaged and present in the moment. I don’t have to be doing something special. I could be at work attending a customer, but I’m really there. I could be reading a book, walking on the beach (fantastic thing to do), taking a shower. Whatever it is. I’m 100% present.

 

Be present in your life. 

Trust me.

Try it.

Let go…