Today I want to share something very special with you. I want to share the 4 Laws of Spirituality as practiced by us Hindus. Now, this list… Read more “Four Laws of Spirituality”
‘Cause you are the piece of me I wish I didn’t need
Chasing relentlessly, still fight and I don’t know why
If our love is tragedy, why are you my remedy?
If our love’s insanity, why are you my clarity?
I love to self-dedicate songs. So when I heard this song, I thought it was the perfect melody. It had just the right amount of good music & meaningful lyrics. It spoke of a message that made everything crystal clear to me. I dedicated this song to a piece of me I wish I didn’t need… My Ego.
We could sit here and talk all day about Ego. We both know it loves the attention. What is the Ego to you? Ego has been described to mean many things.
“Ego” is a Latin and Greek (ἑγώ) word meaning “I”, often used in English to mean the “self”, “identity” or other related concepts, Ego has also often been quoted by writers and philosophers as the “false self”. Freud considers the Ego to be a kind of Super-Human. So, you see, the Ego can be many things. More importantly, the Ego is what you make it to be. The Ego has no power on its own, only what you give it, what you feed it. It lives and dies because of you.
During one of my meditations a few years ago I feel like I went on a long journey with my Ego (my Ego likes to be spoken of with a capital E).
It took me to deep places of my subconscious and showed me memories of my past that I had blocked out. It was showing me the source of why I had become the person that I was…an angry, rebellious, pessimistic teenager. It was showing me those memories so I could take away the power of them. So I could forgive the ones I loved, myself and move on. It became my guide that day.
Some people will tell you that to achieve a higher level of consciousness or to become more spiritually attuned that you have to “kill the ego”. I don’t believe in that concept. I think a person is far more wiser when he learns to accept and coexist with his Ego. Because, at the end of the day it is a part of oneself. Our Ego is necessary. It can protect us, comfort us, educate us and enlighten us if we were to believe in its good nature. Remember that your thoughts alter the Universe. If you have negative thoughts about something, you are planting a seed of negativity in that thing. If you think your Ego is “evil” and out to get you. Guess what? That’s what it’ll do.
My Ego has taken over me a lot during my lifetime and not in a good way. When I am vulnerable or unhappy my Ego steps in for me. In order to protect me from getting hurt any further, it becomes a shield. It says and does all the things that I personally am not brave enough to do. My Ego has the ability to say “No”. My Ego was my pride. After I let go of my pride, after I stopped feeding it and seeking it, the Ego remained. It had a different purpose now, it was there to remind me of other people’s pride. It was there to warn me about people who like to take advantage of humble people. People with ulterior motives, with fake promises, with hidden personalities. I still had to learn the lesson the hard way because I had an unwavering heart that wanted to believe in the best of people. I believed that if you give someone a chance to do right, they will. I must admit it’s idealism, and even though that’s true, I will never stop trying and believe (while my Ego growls in the background).
The truth is, my Ego is my friend. I have been through so much with it. We have fought, I have tried to cut it out of my life, I have tried to lock it up, to silence it, to bargain with it, to fight with it again, to really get physical with it, to hurt it, to heal it only to hurt it again and back to fighting it and finally accepting it. My Ego may not fully accept me. I still haven’t lived up to its expectations as yet, but I accept it. Because I accept Me. I am not perfect. I am just me. And I love every itty, bitty, little piece of me. Including my big, fat Ego. (there I go hurting it again.)
Talk to your Ego. Get some clarity. Open your eyes. Discover a new side of you. Would it be too bold to suggest even loving your Ego? By loving it i mean treating it with love. The same way you treat yourself, all your body parts, your quirks, your “flaws” and all the things that make you who you are. Don’t let your ego BLIND you, let it GUIDE you.
But if my life is for rent and I don’t learn to buy
Well I deserve nothing more than I get
Cos’ nothing I have is truly mine
When it comes to your life. When it comes to the important decisions that you make on a daily basis…are you a doer or a thinker? Are you a participant or an observer? Are you being active or reactive?
Who is making the BIG decisions in your life?
Who is shaping your life?
Are you following your heart, your dreams and your goals?
Or are you giving in to fear?
Giving into other people’s expectations of you?
Can you truly say that you’re in total control of your life right now?
If the answer is No, then you’re wrong.
Because no matter what you think, the reality is that you are always in control of your life.
You are the captain.
You are the pilot.
You are the boss!
If you’re not living a fulfilling life it’s no one else’s fault but your own.
You’re choosing to sacrifice things, you’re choosing to compromise for others. It’s your decision.
It’s no secret that we love to pass fault around as if it were free candy.
But how does it help us to blame others? Sure, the Ego feels better. But how does that help? We’re just feeding it. It loves excuses. Does it make us happier?
It’s time to STOP making excuses & Take Control.
How? Here are 3 easy steps:
Step 1: Admit that you are holding yourself back.
Admit that you’re afraid. Admit that you’re to blame. Admit to yourself that you are powerful beyond measure and that the ability to completely transform your life lies in your hands and your hands only.
Step 2: Commit to taking a step forward towards the path that you would like to be on.
It could be a baby step but it has to be an action, a change, something that you can feel.
You have to feel that change happening in your life.
You can write it down. It could be starting to exercise from tomorrow for example, hell why not today. It could be to change your eating habits, to be more honest, to volunteer some more, to wake up earlier, to be braver, to do a random act of kindness today. Whatever it is, set a goal for yourself. A real goal that you can accomplish within a certain amount of time.
For example: My goal is to reach PRIME Health. Right now, that means to lose 20 lbs in 90 days. To exercise more. To wake up earlier and be more active.
My other goal is to blog more often, write a poem or a song a day, to always, always, always spread love and kindness to every human being I encounter. Those are just a few.
In order to achieve this, I’ve enrolled in a program. So you see? That’s me being proactive with my life.
Step 3: Don’t give up when the going gets tough.
Because it will… It always does. If there’s one thing we can depend on life to do is to give us a hard time. But it does that because it loves us so much. How else can we grow?
How many of you have tried something new and quit halfway through?
The reality is: You’re just not going to get there if you give up. No matter what happens, no matter how hard it gets, no matter how many mistakes you make, it’s not over until you call it. It’s only over when you stop trying. And we seem to do that too easily nowadays.
So my advice? Don’t get comfortable. Trust me, I know how easy it is. How good it feels. But you’re honestly missing out! There’s so much out there waiting to come to you… you just have to let it in.
Do you give as much energy to your dreams as you do to your fears? – Unknown
Here’s some visual motivation to help you.
Anything you can dream of, anything you’ve ever wanted in life or out of life could be yours. You can make all your dreams come true. You just have to believe it…
I believe it. I’ve made plenty of my own dreams come true. And I know for a fact that you can too!
I’ll be the first to admit that a long time ago I was afraid of being alone. It was a scary place to be. My mind was a constant moving train that would take me to endless places. If my emotions and my thoughts weren’t understood or controlled, I was taken on a surprise ride. I didn’t know when or where I’d end up. And most of the time it took me to dark places. It showed me things I wasn’t ready to face. I hated being alone but at the same time I hated being surrounded by people. I liked to be around people but at the same time be invisible. My environment would become a distraction to get out of my head for a minute. Then I had a mind-shift a few years back when I read and understood more about the power of my thoughts and emotions, about the Universe, about the important role of my interaction with others. Everything changed. Suddenly, I liked being alone. I welcomed it. I discovered meditation and I fell in love with it. I would spend countless hours alone with myself. But I wasn’t “avoiding” my reality, or “running away” from the world. I was discovering a new one. My own. It’s something that I still do up to this day and it has been the most amazing, inspiring, gratifying and humbling experience I’ve encountered. I’d like to think that the path I am on is thanks to being able to not only hear but also listen to my soul and its intention for me.
You will discover the synchronicity in the air and the alignment of the Universe when you start to act according to your soul.
A quick word of advice if you’re contemplating setting aside some good-old alone time for self-discovery.
1. The Ego will show up first. You will struggle with it. What you think is you achieving some kind of breakthrough is your Ego tricking you. The Ego has feelings and concerns too, if you can push past the barrier it creates you will discover a silence like never before.
2. Be prepared to be peaceful.
3. Be prepared to look at yourself in the mirror and not recognize the person staring back.
4. You are conducting a deliberate self-exploration experiment. Don’t go easy on yourself. If you turn a corner and don’t like what you see…keep walking. Because you know what? If you turn back, you’ll never discover the other things about you that you will LOVE.
5. Don’t forget your wings, you’ll need them once you takeoff.
Safe journey 🙂
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